What is happiness, anyway?
People have agonized over this question for centuries, but only recently has science begun to weigh in on the debate. Let's start by defining what happiness isn't.
HAPPINESS IS NOT: Feeling good all the time. If feeling good all the time was our only requirement, then the answer would be "yes". However recent studies suggests that when you ask people what makes life worth living, they rarely say anything about their mood. They are more likely to cite things that they find meaningful, such as their work or relationships. Recent research even suggests that if you focus too much on trying to feel good all the time, you'll actually undermine your ability to feel good at all--in other words, no amount of feeling good will be satisfying to you, since what you expect ( all the time) isn't physically possible for most people.
HAPPINESS IS NOT: Being rich or affording everything you want.
While living below the poverty line certainly makes it hard to be happy, beyond that, money does not appear to buy happiness. Imagine you unexpectedly get a raise. While you would certainly be excited in the short term, it would only be a matter of time before your expectations change to fit your new budget. Before you know it, you're just as happy as you were before the raise.! This holds true, according to research for new houses, new cars, new gadgets, and all other material goods that people spend so much time pining for. The only exception to this rule is when you spend your money on experiences with other people so if you took that extra money you earned and spent it on some weekend getaways to new exciting places with your friends or family, then you might get happier. However, this is rarely how people choose to spend their windfalls.
HAPPINESS IS NOT: A final destination.
The old adage, " Are we there yet?" is often applied to discussions of happiness, as if a person works towards happiness and one day "arrives ". Contrary to popular belief, however, unless you are one of the few who won the genetic lottery and are naturally happy, it takes regular effort to maintain happiness. Most established techniques for becoming happier--keeping a gratitude journal, for example-are habits, not one-shot events, and most life events that make us happy in the short-term, like getting married or being promoted, fade over time as we adapt to them.
SO WHAT IS HAPPINESS?
The research suggests that happiness is a combination of how satisfied you are with your life ( for example, finding meaning in your work) and how good you feel on a day-to-day basis. Both of these are relatively stable-that is, our life changes, and our mood fluctuates, but our general happiness is more genetically determined than anything else. The good news is, with constant effort, this can be offset.
Think of it like you think about weight: If you eat how you want to and are as active as you want to be, your body will settle at a certain weight. But if you eat less than you'd like or exercise more, your weight will adjust accordingly. If that new diet or exercise regimen becomes part of your everyday life, then you'll stay at this new weight. If you go back to eating and exercising the way you used to, your weight will return to where it started. So it goes too, with happiness.
In other words, you have the ability to control how you feel--and with constant practice, you can form life-long habits for a more satisfying and fulfilling life.
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