Choosing to live in fear or love? Move back to love

May 30, 2018

Take a chance, choose love, focus on the good, chase doubts and fear away


One of the most common questions people ask me is some variation on: How can I overcome fear and take a chance?  We all fear change and the risks it carries, but I have to say that everything significant I've ever experienced has involved change.  Our soul wants to expand and grow.  When we stay with the familiar, just because it is familiar, we are responding to fear of failure that doesn't support growth.

Consider this idea.  What if there was no such thing as failure?  Failing is a judgment that we place on a given action.  Rather than judgment, substitute this mindset.  You cannot fail.  You can only produce results.  Then the most important question to ask yourself is, " what do you do with the results you produce?"
It is better to jump in and experience life than to stand on the sidelines fearing that some thing might go wrong.


Consider for a moment what your original nature is like.  As a small child, before you were ever subjected to the conditioning that leads you away from risks for fear of failing, your nature was programmed to learn and be open. You were willing to learn to walk.  For a while, you just laid down, then your nature said sit, and you did.  Then your nature said, " crawl" and you did, eventually your nature said, "stand up on two feet balance yourself and move from an upright position." And you listened.  The first time you made the effort, you fell down and returned to crawling.  But your nature wouldn't let you stay satisfied with crawling and you ignored your fears and the results you had produced your ability to stand up again.  Eventually your nature won out and you walked upright.  What if you had succeeded in resisting your natural programming?  You would still be crawling on all fours and not know the advantages of an upright life!


Know in your heart that you have never failed at anything and you never will.  What might be judged as errors or mistakes are the very stuff of growth.  Think about Thomas Edison's response to a reporter who asked him how he felt to have failed twenty-five thousand times in his efforts to invent a battery.  "Failed" replied Edison, " I haven't failed. Today I know twenty-five thousand ways not to make a battery".


Refuse to use the term "failure" about yourself or anyone else.  When you take a chance and things don't go as planned.  You didn't fail.  You only produced a result.  Now you are free to resume the exciting, inventive, creative work that is your life.

Anais Nin said.  "How can I accept a limited definable self, when I feel in me all possibilities"

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